I think that with any "thing" that we have, we see how time puts wear and tear on an item. We see our bodies deteriorate over time and abuse. We see our houses grow old from neglect, and our finest pieces we most treasured become antiques and depreciate in value. Most of us forget that there are a few things that get better with years, like wine. Some of what we "assume" will happen to our marriage comes from environmental. We hear about divorces, or problems, or how everything "went downhill". I wish those that had it so rough didn't try to bring others down. I wish they could still believe in marriage and be hopeful for true love for themselves and others. Cynics are the worst. But, if you want it to succeed and beat the odds (that everybody is so adamant about sharing with you), then we need to actually do "maintenance" in order to preserve what we have...the love that brought us together. We are so passionate about nurturing the relationship between ourselves and our babies...why aren't we also willing to nurture a marriage? Good topic, I could go on forever...can't wait to read your blog! ~Lynn
I don't think that at all. I have high hopes for my marriage! I can't speak for others but I think that a lot of it is due to societal pressure. You see it everywhere the pressure of that fleeting feeling of infatuation that so many confuse with love. Marriage has gotten very confused in the last few decades and people no longer understand what the commitment of their vows means. Women watch romantic comedies while men look at pornography and both wonder why they aren't satisfied. Marriage requires God at the center and two people willing to put in the work and ready to pick their battles in order to win the war. Marriage has gotten a bad rap since everyone decided it was too hard, without Jesus Christ, everything is too hard . . . I think we should start there.
I think that with any "thing" that we have, we see how time puts wear and tear on an item. We see our bodies deteriorate over time and abuse. We see our houses grow old from neglect, and our finest pieces we most treasured become antiques and depreciate in value. Most of us forget that there are a few things that get better with years, like wine. Some of what we "assume" will happen to our marriage comes from environmental. We hear about divorces, or problems, or how everything "went downhill". I wish those that had it so rough didn't try to bring others down. I wish they could still believe in marriage and be hopeful for true love for themselves and others. Cynics are the worst. But, if you want it to succeed and beat the odds (that everybody is so adamant about sharing with you), then we need to actually do "maintenance" in order to preserve what we have...the love that brought us together. We are so passionate about nurturing the relationship between ourselves and our babies...why aren't we also willing to nurture a marriage? Good topic, I could go on forever...can't wait to read your blog! ~Lynn
ReplyDeleteI don't think that at all. I have high hopes for my marriage! I can't speak for others but I think that a lot of it is due to societal pressure. You see it everywhere the pressure of that fleeting feeling of infatuation that so many confuse with love. Marriage has gotten very confused in the last few decades and people no longer understand what the commitment of their vows means. Women watch romantic comedies while men look at pornography and both wonder why they aren't satisfied. Marriage requires God at the center and two people willing to put in the work and ready to pick their battles in order to win the war. Marriage has gotten a bad rap since everyone decided it was too hard, without Jesus Christ, everything is too hard . . . I think we should start there.
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